Getting to Know You

     Our children are so very unique.  They each have their own characteristics and personalities.  Each day is a new experience in parenting.  They change from moment to moment.  They grow up so very quickly.  It is important for us to bond with them as they grow and change.  It's crucial that we learn their likes and dislikes along the way.  They need us to know them on a deeper level as they develop.  

     As small children they need us to get on the floor and really play with them. Engage them in conversation as they play.  Ask them questions and teach them things.  Show them you are really interested in their world.  It will bring a sense of security knowing you want to be a part of their lives.

     When they grow into teens, it is imperative that we keep those lines of communication open and honest.  Sit down with them periodically and talk with them about their dreams and goals.  Show them that you care about what is going on in their life.  Share stories with them about how you had issues during adolescence as well.  Don't lie to your children!  Don't pretend to be perfect.  We know we were not perfect teens, and lying only closes the doors of communication.  Our teens can feel when we are not being truthful with them.  

     When parenting, we must remember to extend grace as well as discipline.  God extends grace to us on a daily basis.  Yes, He does discipline us with love, but He shows us grace in so many ways.  We need to show our children love as we correct them.  We can be firm but loving.  They don't need a drill sergeant, they need parents who love and care for them, just as God loves and cares for us.  

~ Colossians 3:21 ~

"Fathers, do not embitter your children, or 

they will become discouraged."